22 March 2018
I recently coached Paul who was hoping for a promotion and had asked me to help him formulate his request to his boss. He had been waiting for this promotion for a long time and was afraid it would not be granted because of the company’s political games. Because of this, he suffered an “emotional upheaval” that he feared might harm him during the interview. Personally, I thought...
22 February 2018
The source
In my November newsletter, I mentioned Robert Kegan and Lisa Laskow-Lahey’s book “An everyone culture: Becoming a Deliberately Developmental Organization” (Harvard Business Review Press) and submitted a resume of the three-day workshop on the subject which I attended in Boston.
During the past vacation, I read the book and explored the issue further. The...
23 January 2018
During vacation I read two books by Luc Nicon “Reliving situations by consciously reconnecting to one’s feelings” and “TIPI, technique for the sensory identification of unconscious fears” (1). This technique, which is spreading among the public at large, aims at more efficiently handling emotional situations both in our personal and professional lives. It...
22 December 2017
Have you ever experienced moments in your life when you were particularly irritable or anxious? I am referring to certain moments throughout our life, rather than “a day where everything goes wrong”, long periods in which we are not in tune with ourselves, as if disturbed by a disconcerting background noise. Recently, I talked with a client about the time when our children leave...
29 November 2017
The 2017 DDO Conference: Building a 21st Century Growth Culture
By Anna Gallotti & Catherine Tanneau, Master Certified Coaches, International Coach Federation
…from Employee Engagement to Employee Development
…from a “Great Place to Work” to a “Great Place to Grow”
The 2017 DDO (Deliberately Developmental Culture) conference has...
07 November 2017
Dear all,
This newsletter focuses on the ROI (Return On Investment) of coaching for the coachee, his manager and ultimately, the company. We shall explore the benefits of coaching by means of data collected from various studies, the calculation of returns on investment, the elements that have an impact on such a calculation, as well as the actions that the coach can implement to maximize...
10 October 2017
Take the example from Carl Jung:
This summer I read Carl Gustav Jung’s book “Memories, Dreams, Reflections” in which the famous Swiss psychiatrist, who at the time was 83 years old, recounts his inner life, his soul’s journey form early childhood up to the time he wrote this book.
It is a wonderfully written book and I strongly advise you to read it. I would now...
07 September 2017
Dear readers,
In this first week of September, I want to tell you what happened during “Converge 2017” the International Conference of International Coach Federation I attended in Washington at the end of August ... enjoy the reading!
I am on my train on the way back home after attending Converge 2017 International Coach Federation conference with more than 1600...
26 July 2017
Summer vacation often bring moments of relaxation that enable us to step back and take a break, to clear our thinking, refresh our ideas, take the time to examine certain situations from another angle. If you are among those who have chosen this option, I would like to propose some ideas I have been mulling over these past months.
While working with those who deal with change, I have become...
22 June 2017
Characteristics
The biggest revolution in the history of human kind
4th industrial revolution, physical, digital and mindset
Power shift from companies to consumers
Massive disruption across industries
Ex: Amazon changed our way of buying things. They created a company culture of "Uber speed innovation".
The Financial and Tax industries are also feeling the...
23 May 2017
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”
Quote from Wayne Gretzky, one of the greatest hockey players
Failure: the snake that bites its own tail
Most of us have learned to fear failure since childhood. The student who is afraid of failing an exam, the head of a company who worries about bankruptcy, the employee who is anxiously awaiting a...
20 April 2017
We resist change …even when we want to change!
I recently read a book which clearly describes a coaching path both for individuals and teams which leads to in-depth changes. When we speak about change we must also speak about resistance to change.
We have all been faced with this problem: we KNOW which traits of our behavior we should change, yet, when the time...
13 March 2017
Last week I attended a series of conferences in New York titled “Millennial 2020”. My goal was to get a feeling of what is going on in the business world. As a coach, I feel it’s my obligation through lectures and conferences, to keep abreast of the tendencies and transformations in my clients’ world, be it finance, distribution, luxury goods, food-processing,...
24 February 2017
This month I would like to recommend an article written by my colleague and friend Maryvonne Lorenzen with whom I co-authored the book “Make the right choices”. Like my January article, it is an in-depth analysis of a problem that often comes up in coaching: “why am I unable to change?”
It is difficult to admit it, yet we are responsible for our inability to...
26 January 2017
Antoine, whom I have been coaching, tells me about his frustration at work. Yet, when I ask him: “Would you like to change?”, he answers: “I have no choice!” and supports his statement with a thousand reasons tending to prove that he really has no choice.
What should we do when we think that we have no choice?
Here are some aspects of the problem I have been mulling...
16 December 2016
This newsletter is a follow-up to my first newsletter on biases, published in November. You can find it on www.share-coach.com/eng/articles
To begin with, I suggest the following definition of biases: accidental, unintended, subtle and completely unconscious choices, made by everyone, all the time (Source: Neuroleadership Institute).
This means that, since we all have a brain, we...
24 November 2016
We are not usually aware of our biases
I recently attended an on line conference with the examiners of my coaching association, the International Coach Federation, aimed at harmonizing the ratings of the coaching certification exams. Each oral exam is recorded; two examiners then listen to the recording and grade it independently. During the conference, we are asked to think about our biases...
13 October 2016
A few days ago I attended a conference at the New York Metropolitan Museum staging the exhibition of photographer Diane Arbus’ pictures. Her photographs were artfully displayed on the walls of the MET Breuer, each on a vertical panel. One hundred diagonally arranged panels gave visitors the impression of walking behind the stage of a theater.
Each of the three speakers, i.e. the...
08 September 2016
What, if for a change, we decided to be NON DOERS rather than DOERS?
As we return to work, I suggest that you relieve the sadness of the ending summer with actions that will make you feel good or rather, NON actions that will make you feel proud of yourselves!
In companies and in our daily life, we rarely encourage people not to do something. We usually praise accomplishments: a...
21 July 2016
For the last summer article I suggest that we learn how to make ourselves happier. I have just read a book by Tal Ben Sharar whose title is “The Pursuit of Perfect” which illustrates how our aspiration towards perfection is both a driving force that pushes us to better ourselves and a source of stress and harmful negative emotions.
He draws two different profiles which he defines...
30 June 2016
The book “Make the right choices”[1] points to a journey that will help us attain greater awareness when making our choices. This is the key to learning HOW to choose in order to lead a more meaningful and fulfilling life.
Thanks to my book I happened to meet someone, apparently quite by chance, but in truth because there was a feeling of kinship that needed to be probed. ...
30 May 2016
Judge or jury? How to distance ourselves from our judgments and act appropriately in difficult situations.
A true story
I recently held a supervision session for one of my colleagues. In order to make him practice, I told him he should be my coach during a coaching session. As supervisor, I like to refer to real cases in my coaching life so as to enable my coachees to work...
22 April 2016
Let’s face it, sometimes we would love to live on a desert island, without a boss who is constantly prodding us with unattainable goals, or without a partner who wants to go off every week-end, and children who never give us a moment’s rest…
And yet human beings are social beings: having a relationship with others is one of our primary needs from the moment we are born, when...
21 March 2016
Sense stands for direction and significance. We also have the five senses that enable us to stay in touch with the outside world. Through the combination of these three features (direction; significance; the five senses) we can find a possible answer to the question.
The direction
By giving a sense to my life, I will not only give it a direction, but I will also make sure that it is the...
24 February 2016
The acronym V.U.C.A. describes the new environment in which leaders must work:
V olatile: change happens rapidly and on a large scale
U ncertain: the future cannot be predicted with any precision
C omplex: challenges are complicated by many factors and there are few single causes or solutions
A mbiguous: there is little clarity on what events mean and what effect they may...
03 February 2016
As the year begins and winter strikes, I suggest that we think about the danger of unwittingly wasting our energy and instead try to find a way to use it productively.
The source of our energy
It is important to know that we have physical, as well as psychic, energy: our brain, which is an integral part of our body, burns energy through reasoning, thinking, but also, often...
21 December 2015
2016 TRENDS IN ORGANIZATIONS’ HUMAN RELATIONS
Conference held by Josh Bersin at DELOITTE, New York, December 2015
Summary prepared by Anna Gallotti: anna.gallotti@share-coach.com
Panel: 60% HR executives and 40% business leaders, worldwide (and mostly based in the United States).
Significant trends
• The workforce has evolved faster than their work environment:...
03 December 2015
Several studies prove that our mind and our body are a single entity, rather than two separate systems, i.e. “body AND mind”.
Antonio Damasio has proven that our choices are the result of our cognitive process and our emotions. Since our body is us, our emotions reveal themselves through bodily symptoms. For example, when we are under pressure we betray our emotions...
05 November 2015
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Why is it...
07 October 2015
“Faire les bons choix” (“Make the right choices”)
Anna Gallotti & Maryvonne Lorenzen, ed Eyrolles
Buy it NOW in French in libraries and on Amazon (paper book and e-book)!
January 2016 in English on Amazon.
"Combining philosophical reflections and psychological research, storytelling and practical tips, "Make the Right Choices" is a...
04 September 2015
"Knowing is nothing, knowing how to live is everything."
"It takes two years to learn how to speak and an entire life to learn to remain silent"
Confucius
Have you ever observed people at a subway station or when they stand in line? Most of them are using their cell phones.
What is our first reaction when something upsetting happens, at work for instance? ...
10 July 2015
This month I am going to suggest a different way of looking at and practicing effectiveness. Are you ready? To begin with, here are some questions:
Have you ever been in a mood that you couldn?t define, a mood that was at times a blend of joy and sorrow, or of frustration and satisfaction?
Such a feeling is so vague and has so many nuances, that you decide not to try to...
23 May 2015
A widespread misconception : conflicts are due to disagreements.
Wrong, conflicts are often due to misunderstandings rather than to disagreements.
Misunderstanding literally means “a failure to understand something correctly”
Consider two persons who are discussing a highly complex issue: both are convinced that they are right. Most of the time each party...
18 April 2015
Carla thinks she only has one choice…
Carla has been working for the same company for 15 years. She has always held interesting positions, but over the last year she has found her work boring. She complains that her company is no longer dynamic, that it is plagued with organizational contradictions, that her boss blocks projects. Everything seems to be falling apart and Carla is eager...
19 March 2015
The contagious effect of our emotions
How often do we attribute to others or to an external cause the responsibility of our own feelings?
“He drives me crazy”; “he makes me nervous”; “he makes me laugh”; “this annoys me”: it is as if our emotions were more often than not triggered by something that had nothing to do with us, a superior force...
22 February 2015
An article in the January/February 2015¹ issue of the Harvard Business Review is devoted to authenticity. According to this article, even though the concept of authenticity has become a fashionable creed, it should be used wisely within the corporate world, all the more so if it concerns positions of responsibility. A manager cannot say everything to his employees, superiors...
17 January 2015
Meditation is fashionable: medias tell us about “mindfulness”, “freeing one’s mind from stress”, “cultivating our mind/inner self”, and so forth.
This fad reflects an ever increasing need, due to our frantic, hyper connected, hyper stimulated, hyper active, hyper performing life. Regardless of whether we consider our life stressful, stimulating or...
23 November 2014
Developing personal spirituality
Paul wanted to rediscover meaning in his work and revive the desire to continue in his professional life, but he kept telling himself that his life was miserable and that he was destined to be unhappy.
As for Stephane, he wanted to have more power as a leader, but kept complaining about others and about outside events, which he considered to be the...
23 October 2014
As I explained in our September(1) article, I define as spiritual anything related to the development of our spirit. This can mainly be achieved in two ways:
1. through a better knowledge of ourselves, which will enable us to see the world under a wider and multifaceted light;
2. through a widening of our vision, and consequently our field of action, by sharing collective...
15 September 2014
This article is the first of a series on spirituality in enterprises. It intends to highlight the subject while avoiding preconceived ideas.
The purpose of the first article is to explain why spirituality is necessary within a company.
The articles that will appear over the following months will expound on the ways to develop this spirituality, both on an individual and...
11 July 2014
When I started working as a coach, I had the chance to have a supervisor known world-wide for his intellectual and human qualities. His name was Carlo Moïso (1945-2008). Moïso developed some very powerful concepts, which I have proposed to describe in my monthly articles. Among them is the “5 U’s” concept, which has a major impact on our professional...
13 June 2014
When I started working as a coach, I had the chance to have a supervisor known world-wide for his intellectual and human qualities. His name was Carlo Moïso (1945-2008). Moïso developed some very powerful concepts, which I have proposed to describe in my monthly articles. Among them is the “5 U’s” concept, which has a major impact on our professional...
09 May 2014
Marc Brackett, a brilliant psychology researcher at Yale, has developed instruments capable of sorting out individual and group emotions.
His goal is to distribute his tool as widely as possible and to educate children from an early age to understand their emotions and act accordingly.
That is why emotional education is often an integral part of school programs in the United States, with...
17 April 2014
When I started working as a coach, I had the chance to have a supervisor known world-wide for his intellectual and human qualities. His name was Carlo Moïso (1945-2008). Moïso developed some very powerful concepts, which I have proposed to describe in my monthly articles. Among them is the “5 U’s” concept, which has a major impact on our professional...
11 April 2014
From WIRED.CO.UK
A team of biomedical engineers has mapped the bodily reactions to emotions in 700 individuals and found that patterns were the same, whether the candidate was from Western Europe or East Asia.
This study highlights some interesting discoveries:
1/ Different people from different cultures associated different parts of their bodies to the same...
12 March 2014
When I started working as a coach, I had the chance to have a supervisor known world-wide for his intellectual and human qualities. His name was Carlo Moïso (1945-2008). Moïso developed some very powerful concepts, which I have proposed to describe in my monthly articles. Among them is the “5 U’s” concept, which has a major impact on our professional...
20 February 2014
Conference held at Lycée Français de New York Feb 20th, 2014.
Annie Perrin, Senior Vice-President of Faculty and Content with the company The Energy Project.
Notes by Anna Gallotti
www.theenergyproject.com
1. Our capacity of response lowers
Demand is increasing with age, but our capacity of response lowers with age:
After the age of 30 we lose ½ pound of energy...
06 February 2014
When I started working as a coach, I had the chance to have a supervisor known world-wide for his intellectual and human qualities. His name was Carlo Moïso (1945-2008). Moïso developed some very powerful concepts, which I propose to describe in next month’s articles. Among them is the “5 U’s” concept, which has a major impact on our professional...
29 January 2014
Webinar organized by Alia, Authentic Leadership in Action, Jan 29th, 2014 - Notes by Anna Gallotti
Generation flux = today’s generation who adapts to continuous change.
How you do experience change?
3 kinds of change:
1 - STATIC CHANGE
You assume that the system is stable and you push it. Human system doesn’t change this way. You cannot push a team through...
16 December 2013
In my last article, I described what we feel when we find ourselves at an important crossroads in our personal or professional lives, at key moments of our existence, following difficult or unusual events.
This article has raised questions, such as: “Well then, what happens afterwards?” or “Which actions should we undertake to open ourselves to new horizons?”
It...
11 November 0000
We are living in uncertain times. Our lives go through periods of change: we lose our job, we wait for an answer to a job application, we search for a new professional path, we start a new company, we hear rumors about company reorganization (the umpteenth!), we move to another country … There are so many events that can affect our personal and professional lives.
In general, we live...
04 August 0000
Having just moved to New York, I will begin with the story of Christopher Columbus.
Christopher Columbus is the typical example of a man who knows how to wait for the right moment, ever steadfast and determined to carry out what he considered to be a grand project. The problem was to convince the external world, in spite of its inertia and natural mistrust of anything new.
Intuition,...
08 January 0000
As the year begins most of us decide to make some good resolutions, such as: “I should practice some sport, work less, step back and think, take some time for myself, start a diet, spend more time with my family, etc.” Usually the obvious, or hidden, leitmotif is “I should”, since we would like to conform to an idea of ourselves built on the basis of the social...
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